When I got engaged countless people told me that I thought I knew my then fiance, but really once we were married I’d learn so many new things I had no idea about. And let’s be honest, there have been a few things that have surprised me. Like how he likes to hang up his shirts inside out and loves to sing songs from the 80s. Who knew?!
So using the idea that there are always things to learn about your soon-to-be-spouse, at our wedding luncheon’s we did a “sibling roast” of sorts. Now, it isn’t the kind that ends up with hurt feelings or sharing completely embarrassing moments. Instead it is just the siblings sharing the funny quirks of their sister or brother about to get married and giving a small gift to their new husband or wife to help them “deal” with it.
We kept the roast to 5 different things for each person. So at my wedding luncheon my siblings gave my husband Joe 5 small gifts that symbolize things he must know about me. Then Joe’s siblings gave me 5 small gifts that symbolize things I needed to know about him. Keep the gifts simple and inexpensive – it is more about the story and the laugh than the gift itself.
Here are some examples:
– My sister Natalie struggles with directions and we often joke she could get lost in a Target store. So we gave her husband Tim a map to help her navigate things.
– I am a very punctual person. Very. So my siblings gave Joe a batman watch to help him keep track of time.
– My husband Joe likes to pace while he does anything – talk on the phone, eat lunch, think, etc. His siblings gave me a seat belt to help him sit at the dinner table with me when it is time to eat. (Just so you know, he does sit with me when I eat. It’s a different story though when he is eating on his own!)
See? Pretty simple but funny things. People always love it because they learn more about the bride and groom and there are lots of laughs. Try to keep each side of the family only talking for 5-10 minutes so it doesn’t drag on. We had each sibling give one of the gifts, but you could do it any way you would like.